Then it started....
"Mom can I call a friend to have over?" (Ignore a while)
"Mom can I call someone since Rebecca is gone?" (give Regan some tasks and hope she forgets and vaguely search auto insurance quotes)
"Mom, now I can I have someone over?"
I don't mean to be a bad mother or favor one child over the other, but honestly when Regan has a friend over I entertain them most of the evening because Regan ignores them to play computer or watch TV. She loves the idea of friends and being social but it gets lost in translation when it is not all about her. It is easier if Rebecca and she have friends over at the same time so Rebecca can entertain all the guests.
I also enjoy the nice quiet that is happening at the house and would selfishly like it to continue. I want to work a bit, and get some cleaning done. I want to breathe for a moment....in other words I want to be a selfish mom.
On the other hand I feel completly guilty because it isn't an unreasonable request.
What would you do?
2 comments:
Oh my gosh I can't believe I'm not the only one this happens to! I wonder what in the world my kids are thinking it means to "HAVE A FRIEND OVER TO PLAY". Uhh... you're supposed to spend time together!!! One of those things I never thought I'd actually have to teach my kids... how to be polite with guests! Not that I'm saying Regan isn't polite, but I just know my own kids.
What would I do? I'd tell my kids to go to someone else's house, but I know that may not work well for Regan since she has CP. Or maybe I'm just making assumptions. Maybe you could have a friend over for her, but have it be a really short time period and make up an excuse about why they need to leave early, like you have an errand to run or whatever. That way she could have a friend over and maybe not get bored too quickly (?)
You sound like my American counterpart! I am a British Mum with two boys and similar problems. I love your blog! The bacon story had me laughing out loud.
Tilly Bud
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