You would think a child this lovely could not possibly get in trouble or pull the things that she does. You would think that and be utterly wrong. I swear she just comes up with ways to make up for the fact that she can't physically do anything wrong....so she justs tests us in every other area.
I will say though this time it has nothing to do with being random on my cell phone there are no hidden charges for Ferrari parts or anything. Today at the gym Regan had my phone and received a text from John Mark asking what we would like him to make for dinner (yes he cooks most nights, aren't I lucky?). Regan called out the question to Rebecca and I because we were both coaching at the time.
I immediately requested grilled chicken ceasar salads, basically I was craving something delicious and not too heavy for an evening meal. I saw her texting away and gave it no more thought. During a break between classes I went over and checked my phone, and read Regan's reply to her dad.
"Mom says she wants steak, baked potatoes, and ciabatta bread for dinner"
Ummmmm, no I did not!!!! Sounds more like what Regan wanted for dinner.
We have four days until Regan's birthday party with her best friend from disability camp and normally my first instinct is to take the party away from her for being so disobedient. Unfortunately the tickets for "Disney on Ice" are already here and her friend has never gotten a night out with another friend....ever ( her mom is very hesitant with her disablity).
I hate that she pulls this right before a major event for her because I normally don't hesitate to go full force on discipline, so that it hits hard and makes an impact. So John Mark and I are indiscussion on how else to punish her. Any Ideas?
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I've got nothing---
However, I totally empathize. It is so hard to discipline. I'm sure I've screwed it up several hundred times already.
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I would simply ground, specific rules up to household, let her out for the party, and then set her back to grounding again after, leigth of time grounded determined by problem, and lengthend because of good thing she will go to anyway. The again, I'm male single, and have no desire fo kids
Take away her right to use YOUR phone. Simple. I don't think this has anything to do with having a disability, kids tend to lie and put their needs first from time to time.
Are we talking about disciplining her for changing your dinner order? I'm sorry... giggle giggle... but I wouldn't punish for that. That is something that my kids, and I, for that matter would do, if given the chance. You have to admire her ingenuity. She's a thinker, that Reagan. Just thump her lightly on the head, and say " I'll get you for that, little girl" and move on. Enjoy those fun moments. They grow up so fast...
A real smart kid .......but taking her favorite toy (Cellphone) away for a while (not too long )would most likely be the worst punishment. But don't you just love
her wit and cleverness , lol .
Sorry, I have to agree with Joey here. BUT you know your daughter and her real motivation. You know if she was just being a bit deviant and testing her teenage boundaries, or if she was really doing something hurtful.
I'd say, probably, find what ever it is that she likes and take that away for a week or two. Computer? TV? Telephone? OR make her do chores to pay for her ticket to Disney on Ice since you would normally have cancelled but since you can't, maybe she can understand how much it is costing you. With my own kids, I just punish them in different ways because they all have different things they consider treasured. For one, I'd take away his computer time. The other kid would be like, "SO? I couldn't care less." BUt, that same kid would freak out if you took away his bike or scooter.
Hope you figure it out!
Personally, I think there are bigger things to get upset about. Maybe next time she shouldn't have access to your cell phone.
Oh my gosh. What a predicament. I would not take away the party, that is too big. I would however come up with something else. Good luck!
I've got nothing too! Before big events makes it soo difficult with any child. Sigh. Kids are something aren't they!
I'm sorry, I kinda had to snicker a little - my kids would so do that to me. In fact they have - I think it's really just a kid being a kid and not really trying to do anything "wrong." Just let her know that's not cool.
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